It hurts my heart to say this, but I need to start off this post with a sad and heartfelt message. As of today, I will no longer be writing for Stay Soft…. APRIL FOOLS!
Okay, I’m sorry about that. All jokes aside, I am most definitely not leaving Stay Soft anytime soon. Writing for all you beautiful souls has allowed me to express myself freely through my art, and given me the courage to open up in ways I never thought possible. In all seriousness, thank you from the bottom of my heart. You are the absolute best.
Moving right along, I want to use this blog post as a gentle and kind reminder for all of you busy bees out there. Slow the eff down.
Trust me, I totally get it. When it comes to being a busy person, I am a royal whose single-page memoir would read, “she was too busy to write this.”
Between work, classes, hobbies, friends, relationships, cooking, cleaning, paying bills and just overall adulting, life can get busy and stressful AF. But you aren’t a machine, you are a beautiful human, and beautiful humans need to breathe.
For me personally, this time of year is especially crazy busy. I’m a third-year university student, and with classes ending this week I am essentially flying through a crash-course of assignments, papers, presentations and studying.
I also work, write and blog on top of all my other regular adulting duties, so needless to say it’s been a lot. I’m sure many of you busy Softies can relate.
We’re fighters, and in true warrior spirit I know a lot of us are just trying to push through these busy whirlwinds and make it to the other side. I’m guilty of it, too, but I think it’s important to remember that:
1. It’s okay (and necessary) to come up for air during these crazy times
2. Busy or not, this is your life. Waiting for these busy/stressful times pass is like clicking the fast forward button on the movie of your life. But remember, this movie only airs once.
I’m not saying to skip out on your responsibilities (if you’re anything like me, that would probably just stress you out more), but what I am saying is remember to come up to breathe.
Even Olympic swimmers don’t keep their head underwater the entire time they’re racing, and neither should you.
I’m proud of you for everything you’ve accomplished, and I promise you’re doing great. If you’re feeling overwhelmed or if you just need a few moments for yourself, here’s a list of a few things that help put a little bit of air back into my lungs:
1. Take a walk. I LOVE walks, especially now that spring is in the air.
2. Take a nap. I love these, too, and sometimes a quick recharge is needed.
3. Spend the night with your friends. You worked hard all day, spend some time with your main peeps.
4. Draw, read, write, take photos, whatever. Spend an hour or so doing something that you enjoy for the simple fact that you enjoy doing it.
5. Take a bath. Even light a candle or two, turn on some music and put your phone on Do Not Disturb.
6. Go for a coffee (or tea) break with a pal, or even just by yourself.
7. Exercise/do some yoga. This doesn’t have to be a two-hour long expedition to the gym/yoga studio (although it can be, if you like). There’s plenty of at-home yoga routines you can find online that take as little as five minutes.
8. TALK! Sometimes when you’re overwhelmed, it helps to just let it all out. For me, talking about the things I have to do helps me break everything down into digestible chunks. It helps me to not feel so overwhelmed.
9. Play with your pet, it can work wonders to help you distress. If you’re lacking in the pet department, there’s plenty of animals at the humane society who would really love a few belly rubs and ear scratches.
10. Go out and do something fun. Seriously, I know it’s hard to justify going to see a movie when you have a million to-dos on your list. But if you’ve put in a solid amount of work, or even if your brain just needs a break, spending an hour or two doing something you enjoy might be better in the long run. You’ll have a clear, open mind, and you’ll be ready to kick some serious task-list ass.
I hope this helps anyone going through the ringer of workloads right now. Remember, you’re only human. Every muscle needs time to rest, your brain is no exception.
We got this, Softies.
All my love,
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