There’s been a lot of talk about love over the past week. With that said, I’m sure you’ve been showing some love to all of the amazing people in your life, whether that be your mom, your brother, your best friend, your significant other, your dog, whoever.
But this post isn’t about how much of a light you are to the people in your life (even though you are one hell of a beautiful light). I want to talk about self-love, and why it really is so damn important.
*In RuPaul voice* If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else? Can I get an AMEN?!
Mama Ru aside, I really want to dive into the importance of showing yourself real self-love. Here’s why:
For the past couple of months, I have been physically dragging myself out of bed every morning. It’s not because I’m too tired, or because I have a particularly rough day ahead, it’s because my body feels so completely weighed down that it is silently begging me not to take on anything more.
I have been feeling constant fatigue, an unwillingness to care & I have been strapped into a roller coaster of feelings, with rises of happiness & drops of emptiness without any rhyme or reason. It is intensified by my own self-deprecating thoughts, my constant perception of failure & filling myself with doubt.
I’ve noticed I spend my days tending to the internal gardens of my loved ones, but I forget about the twisted vines in my own veins.
Love isn’t always about giving ourselves to others. Sometimes true love is about cherishing ourselves.
I’m not talking about spending every last dime you have to “treat yo self,” (although spending money on yourself sometimes is fine). I’m talking about genuinely being kind to yourself.
Allowing yourself to do nothing but stare at the cotton candy sky, because its beauty makes your heart feel something.
Turning off your phone when you’re mentally exhausted. You aren’t obligated to talk to anyone, & you don’t owe anyone an explanation for your absence (this includes social media).
Eating a healthy meal and drinking water, because your muscles & brain don’t deserve to be deprived.
Taking the fucking day if you need it. Sometimes you really just need a day away from the deadlines, the meetings, the classes & the drama, & that’s okay. Sometimes you just need to spend some time alone with yourself.
Remind yourself that your accomplishments don’t equate to your self-worth. You can be brilliant with a beautiful mind without being an over-night sensation.
As with everything in life, this all requires balance. Push yourself to be the best you that you can be, but know when you need time to rest. Strive to reach your goals, but know that you are not defined by your success.
We always hear that healthy relationships take work & commitment. I think having a healthy relationship with ourselves is no different.
You’re going to have ups & downs, you’re going to need to have tough conversations & you’re going to make mistakes.
That’s okay, because at the end of the day you’re doing it all for love & you are absolutely someone worth loving.
Take some time to cherish the tiny rose buds in your mind’s garden. Water your own plants, & keep those toxic pests far away from your flowers. You are a beautiful, divine creation & you deserve to be loved by someone as important as you.
We got this, softies.
All MY love,
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