With Bell Let’s Talk just passing, I thought it would be a perfect time for us to get real and talk about the normality of struggling with mental health.
For those of you who don’t know, Bell Let’s Talk is an annual social movement that works towards opening up the conversation around mental health while simultaneously raising money in support.
I think this movement is absolutely amazing. Not only does it work towards discussing and bringing awareness around mental health, it also takes initiative towards destigmatizing mental health related struggles, which is so important.
Let’s just take a quick second to appreciate everyone who participated this year, you’re a total badass.
If you want to check out just how incredible you are, you can see the results and impact from your support here.
All right guys, time to cut open my brain and put it on display. (Not literally. This isn’t a murderer doc on Netflix). However, I do want to open up about some struggles I’ve been going through lately.
Struggling with your mental health doesn’t make you weird, it makes you human. So, let’s talk about it, human to human (or human to screen, I guess).
I’ve mentioned to you guys before that I’ve had my share of internal cage matches with depression and anxiety, and lately it feels like I’ve been going shot for shot without a moment to breathe. I am Anxious AF, if you will.
These past few weeks have been really difficult for me mental health wise, and I really couldn’t tell you why. That’s one of the many thrills of dealing with mental struggles, they just kind of show up and crash your party without any warning or invite. (Seriously, how did these guys even find this place? Who TF gave out my address? I’m pissed).
I’ve had a bottomless pit in my stomach filled with gnawing and twisting feelings on a loop, matched with bouts of unjustified anger, a lack of motivation/focus and really uncool lash-outs towards people I care about. Shit sucks. Again, I don’t actually have a reason for what brought it on, but I’ve just been taking it one step at a time. Realistically, that’s all you can do.
If you’re going through some shit of your own right now, I want you to know you’re not alone. You’re not weird, you’re not a burden, you’re not difficult, you’re a perfect human that just needs some extra love, support and patience. We all need a little extra sometimes.
It’s okay to need a little extra from yourself, too. It’s okay to need some extra sleep, it’s okay to need some extra “you” time, it’s okay to take whatever you need to make yourself feel okay.
I think a lot of us (I’m raising my own hand right now) tend to get so consumed by our responsibilities and what others expect from us that we forget we need to take care of ourselves before we can take on the world. Sometimes you need to just spend a day in bed with a bowl of mac and cheese, binge watching Netflix and dozing in and out of a few mid-day naps.
I’m definitely not an expert, but I can tell you from my own experience that sometimes when you’re riding a wave of struggles, all you can do is hold on and take it moment by moment. (Mac and cheese usually helps).
If your victory for the day was getting dressed and taking a shower, I want you to know I’m proud of you for that. If you needed to stay under your warm blankets all day, I want you to know that’s perfectly okay and I’m proud of you for just waking up.
I think it’s important that we keep open and honest conversations around mental health flowing, even long after Bell Let’s Talk has ended. This movement is great, but if we want to see real change we can’t let it end with a hashtag.
Everyone is going through something in one way or another and I think the only thing worse than actually riding that wave is thinking you’re riding through it alone, or feeling judged for being in the water at all.
Mental health isn’t a dirty word, and it isn’t something we can only talk about when it’s trending. If you’re going through something, let’s talk about it. If someone you know is going through something, let’s listen. Let’s keep this conversation going, okay? Okay.
We got this, softies. I promise.
All my love,
PS. I think it’s pretty cool when artists turn feelings of mental health into songs. If you feel that way too, check out the song, Anxiety by Julia Michaels and Selena Gomez. I think you might like it.
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